"Love at first sight is easy to understand; it's when two people have been looking at each other for a lifetime that it becomes a miracle."
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Love
Anyone can catch your eye, but it takes someone special to catch your heart.
True, yet why is it that when we do find that someone special, all they end up doing is eventually shredding it into a million pieces?
Love is; amazing, fun, heart warming, thrilling.
Love is; sad, emotional, heartbreaking, dramatic.
All in all; love is an emotional rollercoaster.
So why do we bother doing it all over again, when we know for a FACT that we will eventually experience all of those horrible down falls? I don't believe in love at first sight, I believe in lust at first sight. If you flirt with a fun and attractive person, it's exciting, and an adrenalin rush. But just because that certain person may give you 'butterflies' every time you see them, doesn't necessarily mean that you're in love with them. No doubt if you were put in that exact same scenario with a different fun and attractive person, you will most definately experience the same kind of emotions as you did with the other person before. I simply believe that lust is something that you can feel instantly and love is something that grows during time.
I've come to terms with the fact that I am never going to understand what goes on in a guy's head when it comes to love and relationships. Like, why say you really care about a girl and want to be with her, yet you don't ask her out? Or why say shit like, "I just want what's best for you, I want YOU to be happy." A little advice, at that moment, we don't care what's best for us, WE JUST WANT YOU, and hello? if we weren't happy then we wouldn't be chasing you to begin with! See what I mean? Confusing. I do agree though, that girls are a lot more emotionally involved when it comes to relationships than males are. I'm pretty sure it's a masculinity thing. Especially around their group of friends. I think most girls would agree with me that the 2 most irritating and offensive things guys can do to us would be;
1. They act like inconsiderate pigs when they're with their friends, but when you're alone with them, they're the most beautiful guy in the entire world and no one else exists to you but him. What's the deal with the split personalities? Remember; girls can be twice as evil and manipulative than you are ;]
2. When they will ALWAYS compliment other girls (and usually in front of you), yet you're lucky to even get a second glance at by them. No matter what girls say, they will always make that little bit of an extra effort to look good FOR you, and not for other 'guys' like males usually think we're doing. Yes, we do like attention, (not as much as you, I might add) but c'mon, you can't disagree with me and say you don't feel proud when one of your guy friends or some random tells YOU that YOUR girlfriend looks hot.
Although, I can't just bash on guys. Girls are just as guilty as they are. What I've learnt so far from my exes and a lot of my guy friends is that 2 of the most irritating and offensive things girls can do to their boyfriend's are;
1. Making fun of them in front of his friends. Guys feel the best and most masculine (I guess) when they're around their group of friends and on THEIR turf. Bruising his ego definately causes a lot of tension, especially if a smart arse remark is said about him in front of his friends and they laugh at him. He no doubt laughs a long and probably says a weak but witty remark back in defense, but until his friends stop bringing it up (which knowing males they will hardly ever let you live it down), he will become distant from you for the rest of the evening, and give you short and sometimes very snappy replies and will barely talk to you in front of everyone. That is, ofcourse, until you both get home and he's horny, then all is forgiven. :]
2. (This is an equal pet hate) Talking to a guy that they hate with a passion && talking about your ex. Again, this is a masculinity thing. Guys don't usually care who you talk to, but when it comes to someone that they despise, it's a big no no. I think also it's like, a territorial thing, you're HIS gf, therefore, whoever HE hates YOU should hate too, otherwise if you're seen talking to that specific someone, all hell breaks loose. And because he doesn't want to openly say that you should hate them because he does, it usually turns into something like, you were "flirting" with him. As for the comparison of exes thing, don't do it Lol. You're obviously with him because you adore him, and you have nothing to do with your ex now. This doesn't mean that your boyfriend will believe that. And you can obviously see by saying, "Oh I use to do this with my ex, and my ex use to be like this.", it can get very offending for a guy ASWELL as a girl.
So, either gender will never be able to understand eachother to a certain extent. But, for me, I would rather have petty, pathetic fights rather than a perfect/happy relationship 24/7. It depends on the 2 of you I guess. Love comes in many shapes and forms, people really need to stop being so ignorant. Just because someone is attracted to the same gender, doesn't make it wrong. Same with online dating, I've done it before. And I actually liked it. Getting to know someone on such a personal level is the best feeling in the world, especially knowing that they like you for YOU, and it's not just a physical thing. Although I do agree that I think that online dating should be kept for people who know for a fact that it is possible for them to see their significant other, rather than dating someone who just infatuates you and you know that there will be no way in hell that you will see eachother. Not because I think it's stupid, it's just more sensible, and A LOT less hurtful.
I'm honestly sick of waiting for the right person to come find me, Lol. But I'm equally sick of trying find someone that's right for me.
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