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Ok I have set up this chat window since advisers cant be on site 24/7 so that when i am online and just not on TS people can still reach me I know how it feels to get online and have no one to talk to which makes you more upset i am here for you so dont be afriad to push that button it takes about 5 mins for the first message to get to me and out convo is private so just say hi and i will be happy to help and if you want to get to know me before you add that is a option too. . .
I am the boy who never finished high school, because I got called a fag everyday. I am the girl kicked out of her home because I confided in my mother that I am a lesbian. I am the prostitute working the streets because nobody will hire a transsexual woman. I am the sister who holds her gay brother tight through the painful, tear-filled nights. We are the parents who buried our daughter long before her time. I am the man who died alone in the hospital because they would not let my partner of 27 years into the room. I am the foster child who wakes up with nightmares of being taken away from the two fathers who are the only loving family I have ever had. I wish they could adopt me. I am not one of the lucky ones. I killed myself just weeks before graduating high school. It was simply too much to bear. We are the couple who had the realtor hang up on us when she found out we wanted to rent a one-bedroom for two men. I am the person who never knows which bathroom I should use if I want to avoid getting the management called on me. I am the mother who is not allowed to even visit the children I bore, nursed, and raised. The court says I am an unfit mother because I now live with another woman. I am the domestic-violence survivor who found the support system grow suddenly cold and distant when they found out my abusive partner is also a woman. I am the domestic-violence survivor who has no support system to turn to because I am male. I am the father who has never hugged his son because I grew up afraid to show affection to other men. I am the home-economics teacher who always wanted to teach gym until someone told me that only lesbians do that. I am the woman who died when the EMTs stopped treating me as soon as they realized I was transsexual. I am the person who feels guilty because I think I could be a much better person if I didnt have to always deal with society hating me. I am the man who stopped attending church, not because I don't believe, but because they closed their doors to my kind. I am the person who has to hide what this world needs most, love. I am the person ashamed to tell my own friends im a lesbian, because they constantly make fun of them. I am the boy tied to a fence, beaten to a bloody pulp and left to die because two straight men wanted to "teach me a lesson." - IF YOU BELIEVE THAT HOMOPHOBIA IS WRONG, PUT THIS ON YOUR PROFILE.
Ok I was search the fourms for the next person i wanted to feature and omg i found this poem and it just shocked me it was so good so i got permission from the author glenn171 and i am so glad to share with you this amzing peice of work if you want to take it and use it for ur own purpose please notify him of ur usage thank you and enjoy!
Ive Forgotten Who I Am
Sometimes its not easy being me
Its more difficult than from what people see
I can barely crack a smile anymore
Or do something to make my life worthwhile
Every day I wake up feeling like shit and
I can never seem to lift this feeling
From my shoulders no not one bit
An invisible telekinetic has been secretly but forcefully
Bringing me to my knees controlling my every move
Stripping me of my physical independence
As I helplessly struggle to regain
The drive and determination that it takes
To hold on, to believe, to never give up the fight
Day in and day out I get this miserable feeling
That Im worthless like Im always being ignored
Like Im a ghost just floating around
Scaring people away with every step that I take
They dont even have to say it because
I can sense it in their body language
Intoxicating me as I am secondhand smoking it
Freezing me into a permanent ice block
At the end of every day I always seem to forget who I am
And what Ive done to shape and redefine myself
The things that Ive done to keep myself sane
I inject an enormous amount of effort into this
But I always end up with either a bad dosage
Or the wrong vaccination Its like a Calculus equation
Hard to figure out but then reality hits
Helping me to remember who I really am
And how much of an inspiration Ive become
Just like any other poet I have my own unique style of writing
And there will never be another me so this is the chance
To make the most of this special gift that The Lord has given me
But the next time Im feeling out of my element
Or feeling like I hit rock bottom or lost my strength
I just have to reevaluate my thoughts and
Dig deep down inside myself to remember that
I am somebody
I am a poetic artist
I am an inspiration
I am a champion
I am full of determination
I am a rebel
I have desire
I have passion
I am a survivor
I am me
By Glenn McCrary
2009 Glenn McCrary (All rights reserved)
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I was going through the boards tonight and i saw some one who had been abused this guy had been broken and I was like I need to help this guy really bad then I got to reading the post and the problem had been solved it was like OMG! some one actaully gave reasonable so i ask if i could past what they said they said yes and I am so glad they did so I can share with you what they have to say it is just awesome. . . Btw in all cases of abuse I advise you seek professnile help before the problem gets out of hand.
Originally Posted by Tan_yah
Okay...
don't listen to those guys
...first of all, don't kill yourself.
Give yourself the chance to turn your life right side up.
Second of all, DONT LET IT GET TO YOU.
Those people that hurt you?
They did so because THEY had problems.THEY TOOK OUT THEIR FUCKED UP PROBLEMS ON YOU. They are the worthless pieces of shit that couldn't handle themselves and their lives. YOU are not weak. You are strong. And every second that you spend TAKING CARE OF YOURSELF is a step in the right direction. Every second that you stay alive is like sticking it to them. you DO have worth. NOTHING anybody has done to you could ever take that away.
Don't let anyone cause you to believe that you are worthless. You are worth a LOT. Just because people treated you like crap doesn't mean you are crap. You are an amazing individual who deserves so much better than what you got.
Third of all, try to find somebody to love you. If you can't get that love from your family, then screw it. Go find somebody that CAN appreciate you. Begin building up a new life for yourself with people who DON'T treat you like shit. People that DON'T hurt you. People that recognize you for the special person that you are.
RELY ON LOVE.!
That's what I do. And I'm fairly happy now And I have people that love me and my life is moving along great.
Just trust your heart and never give up.
Believe me, it works.
(I was abused too)
Oh yeah, and If the abuse is still going on and the person that abuses you is a family member, FIND A WAY TO MOVE OUT. I don't care what it takes, JUST DO IT. Move in with a friend, call the police, etc.
You can't sit around while other people treat you like shit. You deserve better.
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well im running outta things to say buttt i love you <3
This is Shawn hacking Peter <3
Well what can i say about this amazing guy! He is so sweet and kind. He treats me like im gonna die tomorrow. He is the best person to talk to about anything. He can always give good advice on any situation. I have never met a guy so sweet in my entire life. I know when he compliments me or says "i love you" he actually means it. I consider him to be my unofficial boyfriend. xP I love him so much. I have never had such strong feelings for someone over the internet but for some reason this guy has made it possible. I hope we are always friends and some day maybe more. I love you! <3
About Me
Hi i am Peter I can say alot about me like how i always go out of my way to help people and well i am just be because the way i see things who else can i be if i spend my time pretending to be someone else life is goign to pass me by i stick to my motto follow your heart no one else's and it has neevr failed me yeah i have been through some hard times but who hasnt i stick through it and that has made me me so i dont regret anything other then that i am a small town boy who likes to have fun and be with friends there is a lot more but why ruin it putting it all on my profile i almost dont want to put the story up becuase you learn so much about me but if it helps someone i guess its worth it. . . so see ya around loves
~~~This has been Peter~~~Lol all pro. like and stuff
My Life
When are we ever out of pain. When can I say I will suffer no more. This story is not a work of fiction. This is the tale that has been stayed locked within. The story everyone sees is within my eyes. Never to be spoken I think it's time to give it. No more hiding. No more dark. No more shit. I hope this story may find someone that will help. This is my life there will be nothing fake stuff everything has happened and wanna know something it made me me. I do not want emails saying I am so sorry no please just read and know that. There is always more than meets the eye.
Ok I will start out with my birth because truthfully that is something that has affected me the most throughout my life. I was a mistake. I was born between a 13 yr old about to turn 14 and a girl who had just turned 15. I was kept and I am thankful for that.When my father heard of me. He hit my mom in the stomach to try to get rid of me. He still to this day has nothing to do with me and is currently cutting his right with me. Which I understand completely he would rather forget his mistakes then try to be a man and try to have something. Ask any one I have always held on to a little hope of having a relationship with my father. And I have sent him a letter this past year telling him I forgive him but if he does it to my little sister or brother by him. He will have hell to pay and wont be able to have childern when I am done. He is what I call him the sperm that made me.
Now at the age of five I was introduced to my dads family. Blah, they have cut all ties with me because I would not bad mouth mom and got on to them for doing it. They would strip me of my clothes and take pictures of my nude body with brusies where i had maybe fallen off my bike or what ever other reason. What happened to the pictures I have always wondered. Now the same year they said I made sexaul accusations agianst my uncle. Who at the time was 13. Now at a later date I said these were false. Now right now I am going to clear this up. I truely dont know if it happened. The reason why is it was so close to another offense against me that was real. That if anything happened it was mixed together and I would rather just block it. Right now. . . Uncle if you read this you are the only who knows what happened and if it is unture I am sorry. Yes I do feel the tension between us when I go to mawmaws.(something else that has affected me really bad is a saw my great grand father in death and to this day have really bad panic attacks)
Yeah things have happened to me. I wasnt the perfect angel thought. From 1st grade to 4th grade. I was kcked out of school so many times. The disirct consular came to see me in class. I had my own dress in the pricnable office. Hell when I moved schools which I did alot. They actaully warned the next school. I can say i am proud I started the same school that I ended in. That saying is so true you always find your way back home. Well back on topic, I had a anger problem bad. I am so glad my mom didnt check that little box that says yes you can spank my child. Oh my god, my ass would have been red. Some of my worse offenses I bite a teacher, called the princle a chipenze, and crawled under deskes ect. I was a really bad child plain and simple. I was taken to a doctor and so felt like a test subject. MEDS MEDS MEDS! Yeah that is exactly what I wanted. I was brought to so many consulars that to this day I can be a robot about telling you some of my life because I went to so many and they all ask the same things. Another reason I can not for the life of me remember if the first one happened. Thought all those consulars gave you those little toys for being good. Hmm I wonder where my bugs life ladybug is. Yes, I still have some. That is like the only toy I kept growing up. Actaully I lost it thousand times but the creepy thing still pops up every so often.
Life went on through all this truthfully there is not much that happened until third grade. All the other stuff is so fussy. In third grade my mom married her second husband. He was one of those online relationships. Oh boy that turned out great. Ok for this I want my mom to know I am not dogging her. (oh my god i forgot somewhere in all this I met my best friend forever. Also my dog Friendship. I loveyed him <3! remember that comes up in the story later) Well yeah I hate anyman with my mom. Which is why I am ending this story when i was like 14. Things after that age are still unwritten and we do not yet know their outcome. This guy I hated and hate more than all the other put together which is her first husband and current. He is like most people acts really nice in the begining and stuff. I saw through this. My mawmaw and pawpaw married them being pastors. I feel the need to note that he came down a month before or so. The wedding was at their small church. It was a close friends and family thing. The next thing I knew I was being called out of class and moving to kansas city missouri. We moved into his moms and mom and EVIL looked for a place to stay. The son was cool and stuff actaully I stuck out like a sore thumb because I had my texas looks and accent. There was this one time I said something and it came out really thick everyone laughed. Now I am use to moving around but this is the first time I moved out of texas. So i never reallly let people get close to me. I am afraid of having to leave them. Now I made friends like a normal kid. Hell I had my first taste of porn with a friend up there. It did not turn me on at all. I did not see the hype. To this day naked girls don't turn me on.
Now back at home we had my birthday. I remember being caled up from the basement the place that me and my brother slept. And them singing me happy birthday. Funny thing is I don't remember eating any cake. Shortly after that Mom and EVIL found a nice place down the road. It must have been about summer because there were fireflies all over and it was my first time seeing them. I wanted to be little bear and read a bed time story by the light of fireflies in a jar. Poor things died. After we moved out of his moms. This man got possive of my mom. He didnt even want my little brothers dads calling. He broke her childhood jewelly box her prize posession. Threw dishes at her , punched holes in the wall. It finally got to the point where he cut the phone cord. Sometimes I was afriad to leave her for school.He never hurt me or my brothers as far as I can remember. He did how ever threaten to shoot my dog. On top of all of this he was a cop. Someone we are suppose to able to trust doing this stuff. What the fuck! This just wasnt right. One day mom got tired of it. She packed up a car load. We lost so much from that but she did what she had too and we left with that car load. I fell alsleep around 1 next thing I knew we were in texas a few hours away from what I have always called home. We went to my grandparents house. But that wasnt for long mom found a job and moved us into a apartment. The man who did these things I think still scares my mom all the pictures of him she has are marked telling you identifying marks and things.
At this time I came up with a theroy and every place I moved top it was my job to help someone. That I am in that place because that is where I needed to be. It always seemed that after I helped a certian someone in each place I would move on to the next place. I know childish but still as i get older I live by this and it is still true.
In this apartment I met a girl whos mom was in jail and she told me of her life. I wish I could tell you the things she told me but I dont want to betray her trust. Her life was spinning out of control. And you wanna know something I ran into her a few months back and oh my god. . . It is just amazing the sadness was gone from her eyes she was living her life. Being her, I still kick myself for not getting her number. If she can clean up her life I think anyone can. Not tring to sound rude or anything. I just do.(only other notable thing that happened was i had to give away my dog never to see him agian) that destroyed me.
My mom met her third and current husband now. I can say a million things bad but there is also some good. ( I guess) Who really ever likes step parents? At this point also me and one of the guys who had perviously abused me started having a sexaul relationship. I think they are called fuck buddy and up until recently we stayed that way. It got to the point we had sex everytime we could. I could just walk up to him and touch him where ever and he wouldnt care. No one ever knew and it wasnt a bad relationship seeing as he was only a year older than me. Well soon we moved agian. I remember the day mom brought me to this new guys apartment. I had a break down from hell. It was awful I just felt trapped and then she tells me she is marrying this dude. I freaked and cried all night. To this day I am on and off about the guy.
To be continued. . .
This and many other things is my life and have made me stronger i believe if i help one person my crap life was worth it i did not write this story to get self pity no i did it so it might help some one know they are not alone. . .
STAND UP IF YOU ARE BROKEN! STAND UP IF YOU ARE ASHAMED!YOU ARE NOT ALONE
EVERYTHING WILL BE OKAY.
Adviser_BigSteve. . .He is my boss he has run the teenspot advisers for 6 yrs and he has helped countless team.Now no going and running to him and reporting me and shit lol he likes me way better then you . Me and Stevey have a love hate relationship and he is just awsome
Adviser_Ceri aka cerishy no one call her that but me she has been a memeber of ts 4 yrs and has been giving advice that long as well she is my bff and we are not only co workers we are twins almost lol yet so different hurt her i hurt you cerishy is the person who knows me better then anyone else and i thanbk her for being my friend i would recomend anyone to get advice from her i sure do
Adviser_Jess kick ass adviser and singer she was my first trainee to ever make it and i am so happy i can go to her for anything and we have become good friends throught it all i dont knwo life would be dull without i look back and i am like how the hell did i live without her before lol
Shawn what can i say about shawn he is a sweet guy and one of my best TS friends and we soemtimes cn talk for hours about nothing at all he is so sweet and he has fuck you very much stuck in my head lol and sometimes i just want to bite him but i dont because he would like that he makes Ts less dull and he is just one amazing guy and omg him and his hoodies but they are so sexy
Books:
The one I am writing. . .
Places:
I like to just go out and find the place my feet take me
Foods:
Drinks:
apple juice/ fruit drinks/things without to much sugar
Sports:
running and twirling(staff play)i dont do sports much really.....
http://www.nimh.nih.gov/index.shtml
http://www.copecaredeal.org/
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Teen problems: Counselling support NSPCC: achancetotalk.com (most teen related problems)
Counselling, support and info for 12-16 yrs
1to1 private advice or message boards
http://www.helpingteens.org/
(most basic teen problems)Connexions www.connexions-direct.com (8am - 2 am 7 days)
0808 0013 219 (landlines free, call you back on mobile)
text on 07766 413 219
http://kidshealth.org
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Eating problems: (beat eating disorders) http://www.b-eat.co.uk/Home
http://kidshealth.org/teen/food_fitness/problems/eat_disorder.html ( for teens and parents also in spanish)
(alos most states have some kind of teen help camp in the USA ask them to google one near them and talk to their parents)
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Bullying: http://www.bullying.co.uk/
http://kidshealth.org/teen/school_jobs/bullying/bullies.html
http://www.kidpower.org/ARTICLES/index.html?gclid=CMPs8KH-_JwCFRPyDAodtAI3bg ( self defence)
http://www.safeyouth.org/scripts/index.asp
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Anger management: http://teenadvice.about.com/od/violencebullying/a/angermanagement.htm
http://www.angermanagementseminar.com/articles/warning_signs_for_teen_with_anger_problems.html
http://www.youngwomenshealth.org/anger.html
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Depression: http://www.helpguide.org/mental/depression_teen_teenagers.htm
http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/mental_health/depression.html
http://depression.about.com/
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Drugs Helpline: 0800 77 66 00; http://www.recovery.org.uk
http://checkyourself.com//
http://www.abovetheinfluence.com/
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Young Gay Les & Bi Youthline : www.gayteenresources.org
http://www.chadzboyz.com/chadzboyz/
http://www.parentsconnect.com/questions/teen_gay_relationship.jhtml ( for parents)]
Yeah i know we arent liking this but it has to be done christian resource hey it turns out somethings may have been mistranslated why dont you find out for yourself at
http://www.truthsetsfree.net/study.html
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Message Home Helpline 0800 700 740 (24/7)
http://www.1800runaway.org/
Missing Kids UK (log on to http://missingkids.co.uk)
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Net Doctor: http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/ for good basic info
webmd.com
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Pregnancy Line: 08457 30 40 30;
http://www.impregnant.org/
http://www.gravityteen.com/pregnancy/pregnancy.cfm
http://www.teenpregnancy.com/
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Rape: Rape Line: 0171 837 1600 (7 days 6-10pm Sat/Sun 10am-10pm)
http://www.rainn.org/get-help/national-sexual-assault-online-hotline?gclid=CJr5xLj6_JwCFRPyDAodtAI3bg (us) 1800656 hope
(for friends of rape viticms) http://members.tripod.com/rape_pathfinder_help-ivil/rapecrisispathfinderonlineresources/id24.html
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Sex: http://www.relate.org.uk/ (YP, Family, Sex counsellor) 0300 100 1234
http://www.sexetc.org/
http://www.scarleteen.com/ ( questioning sexaulity too)
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Relationship: http://www.links2love.com/teens_links.htm
http://www.teenrelationships.org/
http://www.teensay.co.uk/life/
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Samaritans: UK:08457 90 90 90 ROI: 1850 60 90 90 www.samaritans.org.uk-- Write: CHris P.O. box 9090 stirling FK8 2SA
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Self harm: http://www.psyke.org/
Suicidal? www.papyrus.org.uk for young people
0800 068 4141
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Youth2Youth: 020 8896 3675 (Mon+Thu 6.30-9.30 Only)
www.youth2youth.co.uk
(helpline and there is a chatroom(sucks personally))
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Smoking - stop 0800 022 4 332
http://www.gosmokefree.co.uk/whathelpisavailable/---7 days a week--7am to 11pm (online adviser as well in the time lines)
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Phone numbers:(not tested in a while)
(USA): ChildLine 0808 800 5000 (?)
Child Help USA (800) 422-4453 Child Abuse: (800) 540-4000
Rape Line (800) 832-1200 Nine Line for young people (800) 999-9999
(7 days - 2pm-midnight)
Childhelp USA [http://www.childhelpusa.org/] serves the U.S.A, its territories and Canada 24 hr/7. You don't have to give your name and address, and no fee will appear on your phone bill. The staff is professional and are ready to help. They take calls in 140 languages. The Child Abuse Hotline is 1-800-422-4453 The TDD line for hearing-impaired is 1-800-222-4453
CANADA)Kid's help (24hr) 1-800-668-6868 Abuse 1-800-END-ABUSE
(SPAIN)
Telefono de la Esperanza
Contact by: - Phone: Castell: Contacta con nosotros: 964 22 02 58
Website: www.telefonodelaesperanza.org
Hey, I miss you too! Friday the 13th a friend of mine thought it would be funny if he moved a chair from underneath me. In which I fell onto concrete on my tailbone. I was at the doctors for two hours and had x-rays. The bottom tip of my tailbone is bent inwards. I can't sit or lay down on my back. I have 3 medications and it will take a month for it to heal. So I was out of school all last week. So I'm still in pain, but how are you?
