I'm pregnant and need to tell my parents

[goldenglow]

I'm 16 years old and I'm pregnant, I'm not due until March and only 10 weeks pregnant. I haven't figured out how I'm going to tell my mom and dad yet, I've been trying to think of how to tell them but I'm pretty clueless on what to say. I mean I know I gotta tell them. Please don't bash me for being 16 and pregnant, I've had a hard enough time and lost some friends because of it.

[graceey-]

I recently found out I was pregnant, and I know it's hard to tell parents.
I didn't tell my parents, they found the test.

If you find it hard to tell them face to face, you could leave a note for them to read. Many people find this easier.

[Stay-Gold]

Leaving a note instead of bucking up and telling them face to face is a cowardly, immature way to handle it.
Not a good impression in a situation where you need to grow the fuck up and show a lot more maturity.

If I were you, I would first figure out what you want to do with it; look at ALL your options, not just the ones you think you should consider, and then sit them down and explain to them.
Having a plan(that doesn't include relying on them financially to support your mistake) will show that you have matured enough to at least come up with a viable plan and they will likely go easier on you because of it.

[goldenglow]

Well I want to keep the baby, I've had that in mind all along. So what should I say to them? Hey mom and dad I'm pregnant? Or something like that?

[Kiralicious]

You don't want to just jump into it like that, you want to make sure the three of you are sitting down together and that you have their complete attention.
They will be upset, there's no way around that, unless it's their lifelong dream for their daughter to become a mother at 16.
But if you approach it in a manner like, "I need to tell you something and I want you to hear me out" and see if you can get them to listen to everything you have to say before they jump to any conclusions or yell at you or anything like that.

It won't be easy for any of you, but they're your parents and it's their job to love you and be supportive of you no matter what, and you can tell them that you want to keep the baby and open up a discussion where you tell them what your plan is, how you're going to make it work, like what you're going to do about school or if you're getting a job etc.

[Kiralicious]

wait a mniute.
just saw this in another thread.

I'm 17 and my boyfriend is 31 and I don't think anything of it. I'm in love and that's all that matters.

So, are you 16 or 17?
And either way, if he's the father of your baby and you haven't reached the age of consent in your state, he can go to prison, did you know that?
Do your parents know about him? And how would they feel about you having a child with a guy that's twice your age?

[goldenglow]

Sorry I'm 16, my birthday is October 26, 1995. I didn't realize I made that mistake. I was trying to wait till I'm 17 to tell them but I dunno if I can wait that long because the age of consent in Colorado is 17. I love him and have always wanted an older man and now is my chance to be with one, yeah I'm pregnant by him but that's not the end of the world either. I'll just sit my parents down tonight and tell them that I got something I need to tell them and when I have their attention I'll just be like well don't flip out but I'm pregnant, I took a test and it was positive so yeah I'm pregnant. I'm prepared for their reaction.

[spazz277]

glad to hear just don't be afraid they need to know to help you out if you need some help. Keep us up to date hope things go okay when you tell them.

[goldenglow]

I'm 16 and my boyfriend was 31, I thought I hit the 6 when I typed that in the other post.

[JohnDoe429]

DAFUQ? Do your parents even know about your 31 year old boyfriend? He's probably gonna be on his way to jail if people find out it was him. That's pretty nasty. And it doesn't even matter what the age of consent is it you idiot. You are still a minor and he is not. That is statutory rape.

[graceey-]

Well I want to keep the baby, I've had that in mind all along. So what should I say to them? Hey mom and dad I'm pregnant? Or something like that?

Just blurting it out will be easy.

[PLucy]

Leave them a note before you go to school.

[Mr-Spacely]

Don't do any of this lol...... And does your bf know? Wouldn't be surprised if you were collecting child support in a few years. Although if he is in jail then you won't even get much money from him lol.

[Philosofrank]

Your worries shouldn't include how old he is more than if he's going to stick around. If your parents do not know about him, you have to tell them about the boyfriend first and does he know about the child? When you tell your parents about your 31 year old boyfriend, give them a moment to absorb this information, because their lives are going to change when you tell them you're pregnant.

On a side note, you are not in love, you wanted an older man and you got one. You're in love with that feeling.

P.S Tell them about this in one meeting where both your parents are calm and in higher spirits.

[NightDemon666]

I think u should tell ur mom first. Wait a day or 2 till she kinda relaxes or something. Then tell ur dad and have ur mom be there to support u. You could always bring a friend too. Don't be afraid, it's not like they're gonna kill you.

[coolcricketcrazy]

I think you should first do a lil background check, that's what I did when I wanted to tell my parents that I wanted to marry a guy 7 years older to me. Gauge what you think their reaction will be, and be realistic about it. Be prepared to answer any and all questions they might have. You have to show that you are strong and confident about your decision to keep the baby, if they think you are being immature they might try to change your mind, which could be another long saga that won't be easy.
I think you should first tell your boyfriend and see what he has to say, make sure that you have a backup in case your parents freak out. If he's on board and you are confident he's here to stay, go for it and just make sure that you don't live to regret your decision.
All the best, and let us know if we can help you in any way

[rickydavis2011]

Get a abortion you are a mess. Btw people don't grow up just because they get pregnant or have a kid.