How to be friends with someone I've ignored?

[snickerdoodled]

In high school, I really liked this guy. He and I were partners for chemistry and a lot of classes. As the year went on, he began flirting back. Even if we hadn't been on dating terms yet, we liked each other's company as at least mutual friends.

Then I decided to be a loser and played hard to get. I began ignoring him and talking to him less and less. The next year, we barely talked. Then one day, he openly waved to me in the cafeteria but I pointedly pretended I didn't see, even though I faced his direction. Then after that incident, he started making a point of ignoring me as well. Like when we're the only ones in the classroom, he would say nothing. And when I pass by him in the hall with a friend, he loudly says hi to the friend and makes eye contact with her while never even glancing at me.

It's been a year now since all this happened. I'm still friends with him on Facebook. Is there a way I can mend the friendship and go back to at least being mutual friends? How do I apologize? He's a genuinely nice guy but I kinda ruined it...

[DJ-Rocker_Ann]

It sounds like playing hard to get doesn't work all the time, and he was probably hurt. Felt you were leading him on and then when you backed off, maybe felt he did something wrong. I had a friend who I had almost fallen in love with. He told me everything from things he used to do with friends that he hadn't told many people to other girls in the school he liked/ fantasized about (he was weird don't judge lol). I had a million and one opportunities to tell him I liked him never did. Long story short and more to the point, that, that you did, was a horrible mistake. I think you can play it off as you didn't think he liked you back? Tell him your side of everything. And if that doesn't work, be as sincere as you possibly can, and apologize like it's your job haha. That usually works.
Hope this was helpful.
Good luck. =]

[snickerdoodled]

Thanks, and sorry to hear about your experience. At least you two are still friends, right?

I'm just not sure how to. Just shoot him a message after not speaking with each other for a year?

[danggirl32450]

tell me what happens

[PLucy]

Yeah shoot him a message even after not talking for so long.

Apologize and tell him your side. Offer to hear his.