Honest advice/thoughts about my partners sex drive!

[Abbey_48]

My partner NEVER wants to have sex with me EVER, at the start of the relationship we done it at least 5 times a week and it was good.

The last 3 months he stays up on his own at night while i am in bed, When i try and get him to have sex he says "I'm tired" or "I dont want it"

I have a very high sex drive but seriously i didn't think it was possible for guys to NEVER want it!

Any thoughts?

Be honest!

[ckfree]

it's hard to give an accurate reading without knowing much anything else
but assuming you're reasonably attractive
the impression I get from what you've written
is that he is gay
whether or not he's admitted that to himself or not

there could be other reasons
and none of them are good

you need to get to the bottom of this though
and figure out if it's worth the time to invest

[hovla]

maybe he is under a lot of stress on work or is too tired? doesnt have to be something too bad.

[JavaTC]

it's hard to give an accurate reading without knowing much anything else
but assuming you're reasonably attractive
the impression I get from what you've written
is that he is gay
whether or not he's admitted that to himself or not

there could be other reasons
and none of them are good

you need to get to the bottom of this though
and figure out if it's worth the time to invest

Not wanting sex doesn't instantly mean that he's gay, there are plenty of reasons why he might not want to do it. He may not have a high sex drive like she does and was only doing it at first to please her and may think they're having too much sex.

Also, women aren't the only people who have sex drives OP, men can also have high or low desires at different times, not all men are sex fiends (though it seems like many of us are :/)

[ckfree]

Not wanting sex doesn't instantly mean that he's gay, there are plenty of reasons why he might not want to do it. He may not have a high sex drive like she does and was only doing it at first to please her and may think they're having too much sex.

Also, women aren't the only people who have sex drives OP, men can also have high or low desires at different times, not all men are sex fiends (though it seems like many of us are :/)

blah blah blah
he's gay
and it's ok

[MysteryGirl44]

Is it possible that he's cheating on you? Has he been distant in other ways?

[PLucy]

The first thing that comes up to mind is cheating.

Whether he is cheating or [I]has[I]. Because if he is, he's getting his 'fix' and maybe he feels guilty. Or he ALREADY cheated and feels guilty about it he can't have sex with you without feeling bad. The opposite can be a factor as well, where he feels he got his fix and doesn't want to have sex with you.

However, cheating is only one negative thought to this because you did say you guys were having sex 5 times a week so he really doesn't have to be looking for sex elsewhere especially if you still want to have sex with him, other options are these:

Something happened in his life that may be serious that is clouding his mind and making him tired, or less inclined to want to have sex

He is working more, has more stress thus more tired so he just doesn't want to have sex

Do you know if he may be sick? That also can be a factor, either with his privates or otherwise.

These are just my opinions, the best thing you can do is have a conversation with him and ask him what's going on and if there is something you can do to make it better. (Do pay attention if he might be cheating)

[JavaTC]

blah blah blah
he's gay
and it's ok

You're an idiot, etc, etc.

[CuddleBunni94]

maybe he found out he has an std or something like that, and doesn't want to tell you? or, he could be trying to get the courage to break up with you. Maybe he's trying to get you to break up with him?

One idea to test whether he's totally lost interest is if you set it up so he "accidentally" walks in on you masturbating. Or, you could try walking around naked or in lingerie and see if he shows any interest. Another idea you could try is to talk about your day, but repeatedly mention a really nice guy that you had a conversation with earlier. This would be in an attempt to get him to show signs of jealousy, which would indicate that his problem isn't about wanting to break up or something like that.

[ckfree]

has he told you if he was gay yet?

[LaNouille]

Many things could lead him to feel that way. It doesn't mean that you are not attractive to him anymore or that you are ugly. A big change in his life can lead to him loosing his "appetite" for you, it could be pressure, or even stress. Try to sit down with him and have an open conversation about your sex life. If you both agreed to have sex, then you should have no shame in openly discussing about it. Now, if he is having sexual intercourse with somebody else, watching too much ****, and so forth, those could also be reasons for that behavior, but again, the only reason to know will be to talk to him about it, there are no medium here, we can only guess.