2 Timothy 2:22 “Flee the evil desires of youth, and pursue righteousness, faith, love, and peace, along with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart.”
“Walk in truth and joy, become a servant, study and learn all manner of different skills, practice honoring those in authority over you, and pray for every man you know who seeks the Lord; pray that these men have the heart to labor for the harvest” Debi Pearl*
(*Debi Pearl is the author of several awesome books, I used this out of her book Preparing to be a Help Meet.)
To be a pure woman I will:
I will honor God in my youth. 1 Corinthians 7:34
I will be open to counsel. Prov. 11:14 and 12:15
I will prove to those interested, that I am a hard worker, and will be a good, willing wife. Proverbs 31:10-31
I will pray for wisdom. James 1:5
I will pray for those in authority over me, so that they will be watching for any young man who might be a good match. 1 Timothy 2:2
I will wait for marriage, with patience and joy. Colossians 1:11, Romans 5:3-4 and 8:25
I will look for ways to serve others. Galatians 5:13
When a man of honor asks for me, and those who have watched over me feel that he is a good man, then I will genuinely seek the Lord for His direction. Proverbs 19:20-21.
Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies. Proverbs 31:10
The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need to spoil. Proverbs 31:11
She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. Proverbs 31:12
She seeketh wool and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands. Proverbs 31:13
She is like the merchants’ ships; she bringeth her food from afar. Proverbs 31:14
She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens. Proverbs 31:15
She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard. Proverbs 31:16
She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengthened her arms. Proverbs 31:17
She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night. Proverbs 31:18
She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff. Proverbs 31:19
She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy. Proverbs 31:20
She is not afraid of the snow for her household: for all her household are clothed with scarlet. Proverbs 31:21
She maketh herself coverings of tapestry; her clothing is silk and purple. Proverbs 31:22
Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land. Proverbs 31:23
She maketh fine linen, and selleth it; and delivereth girdles unto the merchants. Proverbs 31:24
Strength and honour are her clothing: and she shall rejoice in time to come. Proverbs 31:25
She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness. Proverbs 31:26
She looketh well to the ways of her household, and eateth not the bread of idleness. Proverbs 31:27
Her children arise up, and call her blessed; her husband also, and he praiseth her. Proverbs 31:28
Many daughters have done virtuously, but thou excellest them all. Proverbs 31:29
Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised. Proverbs 31:30
Give her of the fruit of her hands; and let her own works praise her in the gates. Proverbs 31:31
God’s estimation of a virtuous woman is: hard working, creative, frugal, cheerful, kind, and pleasant.
Lord, grow me into a patient young woman. Help me with my sexual purity. Teach me purity and truth. Help me not get addicted to anything bad. Sex, drugs, alcohol, etc. However, get me addicted to your love, joy, peace, patience, and truth. Keep my eyes pure. Keep my ears clean. Keep my mouth locked if it is not pleasing or kind. Protect my mind from inappropriate and/or disappointing thoughts. Seal my lips with a kiss, so that my husband’s kiss I will not miss. Teach me to forgive easily, and to pray fervently. Teach me to be passionate, compassionate, eager to please others, and to practice submission with those in authority. Keep my lips closed when my anger rises, so that I will not hurt those who hurt me. Teach me to work hard; not to expect praise when I did something I was responsible for. Give me a mother’s heart, for the young children I am around. Teach me to control my anger, and to rein in my tongue.
Help me have a even temperament. Give me wisdom and patience. Teach me to praise you in my few years of being single. Because, I know I will miss these days. Teach me to wait for the young man to pursue me, not the other way around. Help me be patient while waiting for him. Bring a smile to my face while I am at home and in public. Help me stay modest and pure. Physically and spiritually. Teach me to be beautiful inside and out. Keep me healthy and strong. Teach my spirit to listen intently to your voice. During my courting days, keep it holy and pure. Keep my wedding day blissful and joyful. Teach me to stay pure for my wedding bed and my husband. Keep him clean and pure also.
Help me during my single years. Teach me not to give in to a tempting young man. Teach me to ignore my “friend’s advice” on purity, if it is not from you. Teach me to seek you eagerly. Help me while my friends laugh at my way of dress and thinking. I know that you are pleased with what I am doing. Help me to grasp truth and facts from lies and opinions. Help me walk softly and modestly. Not to flaunt my body, and swing my hips widely. Teach me to draw attention to you not my breasts or back side. Let my eyes shine with joy and thanksgiving. Keep them from clouding with rebellion and unforgivness. Keep my legs strong so that I will not sway in temptation. Teach my mind to follow my heart, so that my feet will not run into sin so quickly. Teach me to not seduce a young man struggling for purity. Teach me to honor his wishes and to respect him. Help me protect my lips for my husband’s first kiss on our wedding day. Last but not least… Teach me not to lust for a young man that is not mine. Nor build a fantasy about him.
This is my list for my husband… Who I want him to be. Important stuff.
Obsession with sports, sex, pornography, etc. is not what I want.
I do not like sports, so I will not go into a deeper relationship with a young man that is more interested in sports than God and me. I do not want our kids to attend any sports. I don’t want to sound meticulous but, why make a young man suffer forever if I find his conversations completely boring? There are other girls that share the same interests with him. No matter how hot he is, think about the future. Will I be hurt or will he? This is a must agree before marriage!
Sex… I do not want a young man that is very sexually active. His only concern is how to get me into bed. Watch and listen carefully. A young man that screams out “sex, sex, sex!” Both verbally and spiritually, should send a red flag, do not do into a boyfriend/girlfriend with a young man like that! A young man that tempts me sexually and knows this but continues to do so, I will politely decline his persuasion in a deeper relationship. If I marry him, then he will lose interest and start to cheat on me. Do not be afraid to say “No thanks.” To a young man that is not right/good for me!
Pornography… A man that lusts after a woman will lead to destruction. If he lusts after me than he will lust after another young woman down the road! Just like a man that is obsessed with sex, his only concern is to get me to bed. He is always wanting what he does not have. Listen carefully when he talks. A man that complains is not a good choice. Later he will put me down because I don’t look as “hot” as I did before children. No matter how hot or charming these men are… They will bring me unhappiness. Find a young man that shares my same interests. Do not expect these young men to be “saved by my love” because they will not change. What their habits are before marriage will be carried into marriage.
Look for a young man that I will be proud to be known with. A young man that I would want to be a father to my children. A young man that sees me as a queen not a servant. A young man that will fight for my love, my affections, and my heart. A young man that seeks God as fervently as I do. A man that loves with compassion, not just passion. A man that seeks honor, respect, and truth. A man that won’t see me as a “freak” but sees me as a young woman that is earnestly praising God. A man that honors, respects, and loves me, for me. A young man, that I will be pleased to please, and a man that I will be honored to know, that I stayed pure and holy for him. A man that I can give my gift to him, and he will cherish it forever.
I want to learn not to lust after a man that is not mine, “Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth death.” James 1:15 In other words… If I lust after a young man then that means I am killing something that should belong to my husband. Then when I lust and build up a fantasy of a young man, than I am robbing something special. Usually, I hurt the young man and me. So in other words, be very careful with your thoughts. If a young man catches my eye, smile, thank the Lord for creating such awesome work then turn my focus back to God. Do not hesitate in wondering if it is okay to fantasize just a tad. Because it isn’t. It is dangerous. Sex is a good thing. Lust isn’t. That is our problem. We connect sex and lust together. We sugar coat the word lust to make it sound lovely. Lust is errant, wicked, corrupt, whatever you want to call it. (I like errant; it looks like a big word.)
Think of a candy bar. It looks so good. (especially if it is choclate!) I can almost taste the richness of it… But just as you went to take a bite out of it… A complete stranger runs over, snatches it out of your eager hands, and takes a big bite! He does a real good job of it, because it has saliva running down it’s sides. Now you don’t want it any more.
That is what lust does to sex. When I lust, I am taking the sweetness, and pleasure out of sex. So all I will have on my wedding day is a mind full of lust, but no pleasure will be involved. I will expect my husband to be the perfect prince I have lusted for all my life, wake up in the morning with him not being so perfect. Do not let your mind feed itself on lust. Because it will only rob me of joy and pleasure. Whatever habits I have now that are not pleasing to God, I need to break them… otherwise I will carry them into my marriage, and then I will hurt my husband and my future.
Before I end this, I want to pray…
“Dear Lord, Thank you for these joyous years of singleness. Thank you for giving me patience, joy, love, peace, courage, and wisdom. Help me become righteous and holy. Help me during my diffucult years of purity. Help me during my struggle of maintaining friends who disagree with my thinking and persuade me to become impure. Teach me to laugh a lot and be very careful with my words. Thank you!”
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07-24-2012 07:32 AM #1
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Thought I would share my purity study!
07-25-2012 07:43 AM #2
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bump... if you really want to know more then comment! I would LOVE to hear your comments and to answer your questions.
07-25-2012 09:47 AM #3
10 to 1 you're going to be really embarrassed about this silly 'purity' shit when you grow up.
07-25-2012 09:59 PM #4
07-26-2012 07:37 AM #5
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guess that would be your choice. I ain't gonna make ya read it. If you wanna read it, read it. I don't care. I have a right to speak for my beliefs, and dude, I amma doin it.
I_am_once_was, actually I am not the only one writing purity, I have friends that are doing the same thing, I know a couple that have stayed pure and shared their first kiss at the alter, they have no regrets. WHy would I be embarressed when I know that this is the right thing for me and my future? I am not having sex or gonna kiss a man until I am married. That is that. You all don't exactly regret having sex... and if you do you don't share it... so why should I be embarresed for NOT having sex? I am not embarressed for writing my "silly purity crap". Becasue... well... I like being different. I am glad you all oppose my beliefs. I think that it challenge's me to keep stayin pure because everyone is shouting to me "You are sooo stupid if you really think you are going to stay pure!" I am stubborn, and nobody is goin to tell what I can and can't do. I will go out of my way to prove you all wrong. haha, it jest runs in my blood man!
07-26-2012 08:51 AM #6
07-26-2012 09:52 AM #7
Whats wrong with sport if its just for fun. Something for your child to do, to keep active, stay healthy. I can understand you not wanting to get obsessed with it but like i said, something just for fun cant hurt.Rate? I'll rate back
07-26-2012 10:55 AM #8Life really does get better, whether you're bullied or not
"Through the haze that is my memory
You stayed for drama though you paid for a comedy
I know I can be colorful
I know I can be gray
But I know this loser's very fortunate
Cause I know, you will love me either way" -"Colorful", The Verve Pipe
07-26-2012 08:45 PM #9
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well, i have not read any of her other books. just that one. I liked it, and there has been no comment on "preparing to be a helpmeet." I like this book, and I reccomend it. As for their other books, i have not yet read. I knew nothing of this. However, my mind will not change on the book I have read. You do realize that people make stuff up just to be annoying. Are you really going to believe everything you read on the internet? I am not defending the Pearls, I knew nothing of this. It could be true or it could not be true.
I refuse to change my mind. That is that. I am not being spiteful, I am simply sharing what I believe in and you all seem to oppose it.
As for sports, I do LOVE rodeo.... but that is about it. I don't like football, or soccer... basketball.. ect. That just isn't my thing. Since I personally don't like it, I don't want to marry someone that loves it. I would find their converstaions boring. This purity study is what I wrote about ME. Not anyone else. It is all what I want. None of this has to do with you. But I am sharing it. I hate sports, so I will not marry someone that loves it. It would be kinda silly of me. It is kinda like me marrying a Muslim or someone of another religion. I am sorry, but I am just not interested in sports. It isn't my thing. I prefer horses, goats, sheep, cattle, trucks, dirt roads, ranch livin ect. Now THAT is my kind of stuff.
07-27-2012 05:55 PM #10
I seriously wish I could trick you into giving yourself an orgasm.
Because you would definitely crumble like a sandcastle built by an epileptic.i know the kid with his guitar, so drunk and anxious has been
done to death, but tell me what hasn't, i'll try it.
because i'm selfish enough to wanna get better, but i'm
backwards enough not to take any steps to get there.