Long Distance Dilemma...

[peteparker92]

Hey I'm Pete, recently moved to USA from UK.

I was seeing a girl back in the UK for two months, we got really close,
I really liked her. We spent alot of time with eachother the last week I was in England and when I finally had to leace
for the US it was really hard because I really wanted to be with her! Upon arrival to my new home, we talked over Facebook.
We talked loads everyday, and I suggested we be with eachother and we decided to have a long distance relationship.
Now after 3 months, I regret it. he relationship has lost its spark and I find it boring, and lack enthusiasm talking to her
when I used to love talking to her non stop for hours!

Breaking it off isn't so simple though, after a month in America and when
we were getting on great, we were planning her to come over for a visit. She has booked a flight for December, $1000+, to stay here
for a month. At the time, i thought it was a great idea but now... I have a job, I don't feel the same, I'm bored of the relationship and to
be fair, i miss having a physical sexual relationship. She is a great girl and would never hurt anyone, she's so kind and her
parents are great (who paid for her flight), really not sure what the best way to handle this situation is..!

Yes I've dug myself this hole,if anyone has any good advice or has been through a similar situation, please share your advice!
However, if you're just going to be a jackass, don't bother, really don't want to hurt this girl and stupid comments aren't
neccessary, genuinely in a dilemma!

Thanks in advance!

[khaligula]

Spend the month with her, if it works it works, if it doesn't it doesn't and I'm sure you will both pick up on that. December is around the corner, if the girl is that great I am sure you can wait a few months without getting your dick wet.

[peteparker92]

She's great, but don't think she's for me. If she was, I don't think i'd be bored of her, spark has just totally gone, it's like a chore to talk to her and
It sounds awful but I am in a good job and when she comes i'm going to ahve to put in shit load of holidays ect. Don't know whether I should tell
her it's not working.

[hovla]

stuff like that can happen if you talk with her every day for couple of hours, you run out of things to say. Maybe try talking less to her? It might bring back quality instead of quantity in conversations and you might not be as bored with it as you are.

i would say try to stick through those few months and see hows December going to be, give both of yourselves enjoyable month and you can always break it off later if you still think its pointless and wont work.
Quite shitty situation mate, good luck with it.

[northerN__Lights]

I'm going to take a shot in the dark here and say that you should tell her how you feel, but not break up with her. Just tell her that you're finding it harder to find things to talk about and ask if there is another way to communicate that may work better for you two. How are you talking? Do you skype or is it just texting and phone calls?
Maybe ask her to write you a 'snail mail' letter so that you have something physical from her? And write her a letter back!

On a side note, I would be pissed off if after buying a $1000 ticket to go see someone they told me they weren't interested in me anymore. And I would be even more angry if I was the parent that bought the ticket. They obviously think highly of you to buy her that ticket.

[khaligula]

Women lose their spark after a while and I'm sure every man knows this. I think you're just avoiding meeting her, bro, when it's obviously the right path of action after she embarrassed herself having her parents pay for a plane ticket to meet some online boyfriend.

[psChristina]

i think you should just tell her the truth. it's better if you tell her sooner than later because if you dont feel the spark anymore, doubts will keep eating at you.. yeah.. its probably the same as stringing her along for another 4+ months. plus $1000 is really expensive...