Problems with new boyfriend.

[IfYouCantHang]

I've started seeing this guy, we've been together a week now.
It was really rushed from the word go, and I've stopped over at his place 5 out of the 7 days I've been with him.
We hit it off really quickly, and we slept together quite quickly.
I was waiting to come on my period and I felt as though I should delay it by taking one of my contraceptive pills, incase anything happened, as I didn't want to get pregnant.
I've been taking them now for a week, since then. I'm worried about if I could be pregnant though. I feel really paranoid about it, although I have been taking my pill, when I noticed my period starting before we had sex, I took a pill and it stopped it.
I'm not 100% sure but, will my period be delayed until I stop taking the pill and what are my chances of being pregnant?
He didn't wear a condom, but I was like I said, on the pill each time we had sex.


Also, I'm a little concerned he may not be such a nice guy,
I spoke to him about it and he said if I was pregnant, he wouldn't even want to know and to just 'get rid of it' as he already has a child, and doesn't want another.. made me feel kind of alone, and he just said we've only been dating a week I don't want this kind of conversation.

Can someone give me some advise?

[JohnDoe429]

Seems like he might be using you for sex...and you're letting him. He already has a kid...with another girl?!

[IfYouCantHang]

Why would you think he's using me? we both wanted to have sex, and he wouldn't tell his mum, and his friends we were in a relationship, if all he wanted was sex, i can understand why he wouldn't want another child, i don't want one, especially with someone ive just started dating, and yes he has a 3 year old son with a girl he was with for a long time.

[Degoo78]

I'm going to tell you from my personal opinion, I don't think it was a good idea that you jumped into a sexual relationship so quickly. Sex can be fun sure, but it could also cause a lot of problems. Especially since he already has a kid, and you might/or might not be pregnant. He doesn't want a relationship with you, otherwise he would tell everyone and show you off to the world. What he wants is a fuck buddy. He's allowing you to call him your boyfriend so that he can get it from you anytime he wants. If I were you, I'd find someone worth your time and who actually wants to be with you rather than someone who is more than ready to let you go when times get tough.

[ticketxtoxride]

Alright, you've been together a week. That's definitely not enough time to worry about being pregnant unless you're not on any method of birth control. I mean, always have it as a concern, but when people worry too much about being pregnant, their bodies sometimes show more symptoms of pregnancy - even if they're not pregnant. It simply becomes this whole situation of paranoia, so for the meantime, just let that part be. Typically, your periods will be affected when you first start taking an oral form of birth control - they tend to regulate over time, depending on the brand of the pill (and the type), but in the beginning, your body is still getting used to the foreign chemical you've brought into it. I have heard, though, that you shouldn't have sex until you've been on birth control for at least a month, though - if you miss one pill in a month then you mess it up, so imagine what it'd be like if you've only had a week's worth of pills so far. So there is the chance you could be pregnant - but again, don't focus too strongly on it, because otherwise you may begin to show false symptoms if you're not pregnant.

Also, as the person above me said, you definitely jumped into a sexual relationship too fast. I'm not here to judge - I myself have made the same mistake in my past - but just so you know for next time. More often than not, a man who expects sex early on in the relationship isn't for you for many other reasons - a relationship has to built and develop before it's ready to deal with the sexual aspect, and before you're even remotely emotionally prepared for that sexual aspect. Not that every guy that rushes sex early in a relationship isn't serious about their partner, and you haven't given quite enough to make a hypothesis on based on his own personality, but that's just the majority situation. I know you're an adult so it's not the same as it would be were you a teenager - I myself am an adult, so I understand - but at the same time, as I mentioned, a relationship needs to develop properly before you bring sex into it. If he were truly serious about you - my own opinion, so don't take it as 100% accuracy - then he would've waited at least a little longer.

[Kiralicious]

...a week is certainly not even close to long enough to be stressing about pregnancy.
but you can't just start taking a pill and have sex and expect it to work. You have to be taking it at the exact same time every day for a set amount of time before its even effective.

[IfYouCantHang]

We both wanted to have sex, we are very sexually attracted to each other, and i know its really soon to sleep together but i dont think he's using me for sex, he doesnt ask for it, it just happens when were in bed together at night, when i stop over. There's been a day when i stopped over and we didnt have sex, we just cuddled. I dont think he's using me but i think im going to stop taking my pill and wait for my period to come, and tell him we should get to know one another before jumping back into bed, and see how he reacts.

[ticketxtoxride]

Not everything is going to go back to normal instantly if you stop taking the pill, because you've introduced that chemical to your body. In addition, if a month goes by and you want to have sex, you should already be on the pill. It would be more beneficial to you in the long run to simply stay on the pill, and let your body get used to it - your period will come, and it will likely start to come every month at the exact same time (many types of the pill typically regulate periods), so why stop taking it now? That will only mess up the system it's trying to create, and you'd be waiting an equal amount of time for a normal period again as you would be while taking it. Just stay on the pill, let it do it's work, and that way you're also prepared for a later time when you choose to have sex again. If you continue to have sex in the meantime, though, use a condom - since as I mentioned before, you should be on the pill for about a month before it's effective.

[mychemicaljayde]

You needed to have started taking the pill a week before sex, not a month. Trust me, I got this lecture from a professional when I started the pill, and as long as you take it a week before sex you're alright, if not there is a chance you could get pregnant but you'll have to wait a while before finding out.

[Degoo78]

If you're really that worried that you're pregnant or have any questions, go to a free clinic, most town halls have them. You can take a pregnancy test and I'm sure they'll be more than able, and willing, to answer any doubts you have.

[Kiralicious]

You needed to have started taking the pill a week before sex, not a month. Trust me, I got this lecture from a professional when I started the pill, and as long as you take it a week before sex you're alright, if not there is a chance you could get pregnant but you'll have to wait a while before finding out.

It actually depends on the pill you're taking.
7 days is adequate for some pills, but some of them they advise to wait longer before having unprotected sex.

[bucskick36]

You should just do it anally

[IfYouCantHang]

I have been told you can be taking this pill for a week before it's effective, by a doctor. The problem I'm having is wondering when my period will come. I stopped taking my pill 2 days ago because if i'm on the pill my period won't come will it?
So I could just wait until after i've had my period then take the pill as normal.

[ticketxtoxride]

You still get your period on the pill, it's just that your first after getting on the pill is technically a little messed up, because your body is still getting used to it. What the pill does is regulate periods - it makes them come at the exact same time every month, with almost the exact same flow, so that there's really no surprises. That's why the first is messed up - it's trying to regulate your periods for you. If you stop taking the pill and then start taking it again, your first period after you start taking it again will be just like this one. So by stopping and intending to start again, you're setting yourself up to be feeling exactly like this again for your next period.

[Kiralicious]

I have been told you can be taking this pill for a week before it's effective, by a doctor. The problem I'm having is wondering when my period will come. I stopped taking my pill 2 days ago because if i'm on the pill my period won't come will it?
So I could just wait until after i've had my period then take the pill as normal.

You really need to go up to the doctor or a clinic and discuss this with them because you definitely need someone with a degree to explain to you how your specific pill is supposed to work.
If you don't then all you have is what you don't know and what a bunch of people online tell you and that's going to set you up for a possible pregnancy or many pregnancy scares.

[IfYouCantHang]

I have spoken to a doctor about it, and I know when I'm suppost to take my pill, but I wasn't in a sexual relationship for a wile until recently so I started taking my pill about 10-12 days ago I'd say. I've had sex since I started taking it again, and never forgot to take it, but my period started about 10-12 days ago and I stopped it by taking a pill, since then ive kept taking them each day. I just don't know if the best thing for me to do now is keep off my pill and not have sex so I can get back into my routine of taking it, or start taking it again, and continue to have sex, until my period comes?
I personally thought the pill stopped your period which is why I stopped taking it and i'm waiting for my period to come..

I don't really want to talk to a doctor about it as it's stupid I've even messed up my pill, I don't need a lecture off them, I know I made a mistake just need some advise.

[ticketxtoxride]

No, the pill definitely does not stop your period. It was common knowledge even when I was in high school that it regulates your period. Some pills will even make your period heavier, and some will make it lighter - it depends on the pill and your body chemistry - but it does typically make your period come at the exact same time every month, for the same length of time, and with the same flow. It's because the pill works to make your body think that it's pregnant every other time of the month, which is why you can't get pregnant while on it, but it'll reserve a certain time each month for your period. Your period won't just come because you stopped taking the pill - it's already played around with your body, so you'll get your period again next month, but not this month. It's usual for you to miss one period when you start the pill, or have a smaller one than usual, because it's still trying to regulate your period. If you stop taking it now and start taking it again later, the exact same thing will happen again, and you'll be in this situation again.



So my advice at this point is to get back on the pill and let it regulate your period, and NOT to stop again. Because every time you stop taking it and start again, it will mess with your periods again, and you'll have plenty more situations like this. Keep consistency.

[IfYouCantHang]

So when will I know to stop taking my pill? I will start taking it again in the morning, but i'm so confused I dont know when I'd stop taking it from then on.

[IfYouCantHang]

By stopping taking it, I mean eventually, when i'm actually suppose to have the 7 day break.

[ticketxtoxride]

The seven day break is when you're on your period, I'm guessing - most pills don't have a break at all, but the only reason I can see for a break is when you're on your period. I suppose that when you get your period, you'll stop taking it, and then start again after seven days - whether or not your period lasts that long (the pill might make it last a whole week, but if it does, then I don't imagine it would be very heavy). Of course, since all the ones I know of don't have a break - most types will have you take it every single day with no break. I would suggest you ask a doctor to confirm - or Google your brand - when the break should be, but my assumption is that you'd stop when your period starts.