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[berrryfrezh]

Is a girl having a kid mean an instant no go?

AND

Girls answer too I suppose.

[le-franglais]

Not necessarily, but at this stage of my life, it would be something that would be very difficult to overcome

[DiamondtrimSlim]

Bit of a barrier like. Could do without luggage. If the lasso was really special I'd be lenient.

[Reginasfangirl]

Answering as a girl (I hope that's okay):

A guy having a kid would be a no go for me. I'm not responsible or mature enough to handle the added stress or commitment involved if things got serious.

[XsrdX22]

I have no problems being friends with someone who's having a kid or who already has a kid.
But I definitely wouldn't hit it, unless it was a 35-35 year old milf whose kids were out of the house already.

[andysexypants]

yeah pretty much.
later on in life it'd be alright. but not in college.

[TheDisintegrators]

I forget where I saw/heard this but: When a person is a single parent it means your only real option is to date other single parents.

[StupidBetch-]

Im a girl and its a huge dealbreaker for me. Im 21 and if you have a kid you can't go out and get shitfaced with me. You can't party with me and my friends all night. And if I have to spend 24 7 with a guy and his kid im gonna get irritated. On the flip side if a guy is going out all the time and not spending time with his kids and generally being a deadbeat I can't get wet from that either. Either way they lose, so I just avoid them.

[Dioz]

Do not want. Simple.

Exceptions being if she's actually properly worth it. But eh.+

[graceywoah]

I'd date a guy with a kid if I was really into him.
It's not that I have a problem with kids, but it wouldn't be
fair for a kid to get attached to me unless I was serious about
the relationship.

[Stay-Gold]

99% of the time, I wouldn't touch it, especially if the kid's mom was still in the picture.
That's just too much baggage.

He would have to be just about perfect in every way, including financially comfortable for me to consider it.

God that sounds shallow.

[MischiefManagedx]

If a guy has kids, immediate deal breaker.

[Kiralicious]

At this point in my life, I probably would not date a guy with kids because I'm not ready to play mom, much less step mom. As I get older I would probably still be cautious about it, just because I know that there can be a lot of drama between exes and I will not be in a relationship with a guy that has an ex wife/baby mama that has to have her nose in the relationship.

[ProdigalSonReturned]

I would hit... maybe depends on the hotness to kid situation ratio, also if there is ANY baby daddy issues its an auto no go but i couldn't date.

[Porcheria]

Heather, do we need to have a talk again?

But no, generally no. I don't like kids, I don't want any of my own at this point in time and I'm not nice enough to deal with baby mommas without hitting them with my little dodge neon.

[Soldier_of_none20]

i wouldn't make it an instant NOGO but its definitely something you need to sit down and talk to her about before you date her and see how she will see you in her and the kids life, how you will see the kid in your life

[David]

At this age: yep.

In about 5-7 years: probably not.

[Ollie_94]

At 17, yes. Regardless of how fit she is.
I don't think my parents would approve either.

[LeMoine]

I don't give a shit. I'll ask for a threeway.

[chess-boxin]

like if its casual? then no i dont wanna meet the kids tho

if its a relationship then no.

im too young to act like a dad.