Long Distance Relationship

[beefstew1]

I met this girl online and I really like her. I'm from South Carolina she is from Tennesee so close enough to work. What is people opinion on long distance relationships? Do yalll think they work or what?

[Walk-On-Water]

It really depends on how committed you are to making it work. Distance is something people learn to deal with if they really love someone, but that doesn't mean it is easy for them. You have to ask yourself if this is honestly something you think you can do, and if so, try it.

[Camaro_91_00]

My sister dated a guy for three years who she met on Facebook, and he was stationed in Afghanistan... It works sometimes.

[horheyd]

My girlfriend is in North Carolina, and i am in Colorado. If you want it to, you can make anything work.

[Camaro_91_00]

My girlfriend is in North Carolina, and i am in Colorado. If you want it to, you can make anything work.

You're in Colorado??!!

[horheyd]

You're in Colorado??!!

Yesssssssssssssir

[Musicxerin]

If you work at it, it can happen. Ive been doing ldr's for about 3 years now. Not by choice. But hey i think its worth it. I got used to it

[IzzyRod]

No, I don't really think they work. Then again, it depends on how trustworthy you are of the person. But from my personal experience and knowledge of others, they don't usually work out.

[Mike_Kitty]

I'm in Arizona, my boyfriend is in Ohio. Mah *****, ya just gotta put in the effort!

[stardancer1204]

It can I was 10 states away from my ex. we worked it out for 7 months before we broke up and we didnt break because of the long distance relationship

[khaligula]

They don't work, man. If you aren't getting laid in your relationship, it isn't worth it. Online interactions will never replace face to face interactions and if this girl fell for you, she'll fall ten times as hard for the first dick that comes around. Y'all fucking crazy.

[hipstersquirrels]

They don't work, man. If you aren't getting laid in your relationship, it isn't worth it. Online interactions will never replace face to face interactions and if this girl fell for you, she'll fall ten times as hard for the first dick that comes around. Y'all fucking crazy.

Keeping this post in mind, as opposed to most of the others that were positive, I'd say it's to each their own.
You may like it, you may not. But I don't agree with the girl being easy just because of the distance.

You have to decide for yourself, and it never hurts to try.

[Legolambnon]

Khaligula has a point in that the point of a long-distance relationship is to make it short-distance as soon as you can. They can work, but they're incredibly much harder to do.

[khaligula]

Keeping this post in mind, as opposed to most of the others that were positive, I'd say it's to each their own.
You may like it, you may not. But I don't agree with the girl being easy just because of the distance.

You have to decide for yourself, and it never hurts to try.

The worst you can possibly do with a girl is meet her online and I will explain why.

Women are smart and deceitful creatures. They know men, they know what makes men click, and they act accordingly. I guarantee you that your girl isn't with you what she was with her ex boyfriend and she isn't with her ex boyfriend what she is with other men. Women wear masks. If she gauges up that you want a nice girl, she'll be the nice girl. If she gauges up that you want the biggest slut in the neighbor, she'll be just that too. The thing is that IRL when the relationship starts you're both looking for red flags. She'll be looking out for what type of girl you want (playing hard to get, seeing how it works, eventually dropping defenses accordingly) and you'll be looking out for just what kind of girl she is. This process doesn't exist online where things are hardly verifiable and where lying is easy. Your internet girlfriend is already selling you a crock of bullshit. She's feeding you lines you want to hear, one by one, and hiding all the red-flags. ((Notorious warning: You'll see that a lot of apparently pretty girls will actually fall easily into online relationships, this is a red-flag: It means they have been established as crazy or sluts within their communities or have been in a string of self-sabotaged relationships.))

And that's just the topic of the authenticity of the relationship. Distance is something else. Ask yourself: Why do you, or why does she want a long distance relationship? How much time does she spend online? How are your social lives? Is spending time with this person truly superior to the real life commitments you've made and the emotions you feel when out with your friends or real life romantic interests? Look at an internet joke and then look at a joke your friend made. The internet joke can be the most witty shit on earth, I guarantee you it will at most evoke a chuckle. Your friend makes a stupid joke- you're rolling around on the floor like a maniac. Interactions where only words are available are incredibly watered down, the intensity that just having all aspects of communication present (body language, facial expressions, tone, context) is overwhelmingly different to having just the verbal. You really don't know your connection to someone until you have all that. Quite frankly, I don't think you can feel anything resembling love until you have all that.

Ask yourselves why you as people are settling for the cheap substitute of an online relationship: Is it because she is that great, or is it because you can't do better? If it's the latter, drop the bitch, get a gym membership, and start doing something with your life ASAP.

[Legolambnon]

I like how this guy's doing half my work here. Well written, Khaligula.

[hovla]

i was going to make longish post but thankfully khaligula wrote most of the things i wanted to say.
Only way i believe long distance can work is if its temporary and if you had meaningful relationship before it became long distance.
also whats point of relationship if there is no physical connection?

[OneDFan22]

khaligula hit the nail on the head.

Plus, if youre looking for a relationship online, especially on a site like Teenspot you are seriously desperate. It will never be anything serious. Plus you never know what the person is REALLY like until youve met them and been with them for a while.

[OneDFan22]

They fail. Long distance relationships only work out when they don't involve teenagers who have no control over their emotions, and sleep around and flirt with everything in sight. Unless both of you are straight-edge nards, then heck yes it'll work out for you. I find that long distance relationships only work when they eventually morph into a regular one through frequent REAL LIFE contact, otherwise uncertainty and other factors will come into play that may screw everything up.

Things may seem fine in the first few days, weeks, and even months. But what happens if you meet someone in real life? You will want them. You'd be stupid to reject them over someone who you have never actually met.

In short, online relationships are for desperate people.

[kLz]

I have one. More or less. Met a lithuanian girl on the internet, we talked for about 3 months until we met in June, we are together until September and we will meet again at the beginning of November until January. Flight is only 20€ for each so far, quite affordable and the flight is only two hours. Not so much. Then she will be able to study in another country and since there's a good university in my town for what she does, we'll 'live' together for a few years at least if it works out.

It can work if you can spend a lot of time together IN REAL LIFE. If you cannot meet, forget about it.

[hotgrits29]

I would definitely not pursue a long distance relationship if you haven't even met this girl yet. My now husband and I met the summer before I left for college. We dated the whole summer, and when I went off to college we decided to try a long distance relationship. It was hard enough. after knowing him in person for 3 months, to work out all of our problems, to have all of our arguments, our long talks about marriage and about love and what we meant to each other..over skype. Our first "I love you's" were over skype. It's a terrible, trying thing to do, and I had a hard time putting up with all the shit that long distance relationships ensue after knowing him for MONTHS. I can't imagine not even knowing him and trying to do all of that.

MORAL OF THE STORY: Long-distance relationships CAN work, but not if they don't start out as real relationships. IMHO.