today i confirmed that my bestfriend really is going out with my ex for whom i still have feelings for. I had been dating her for near 8 months and we both felt that it was time for a break and it would be less stressful for the both of us. It was within under a month since we had broken when my friend started to move in on where i had left off and i had sensed it before we broke up and they hung out within a week. It really hurt me and I warned the both of them to back off. It was around this time that I went dark because of my clinical depression and in this time my friend was hitting on my ex and she began liking him, to try and split up the inevitable I framed a conversation on my phone by twisting the words my friend once said to me, i wasnt going to end up using it, but then people were playing around with my phone and she ended up seeing the messages and i had to go along with my plan. I felt bad about it and thought it had worked, but it had no effect at all. Tension grew between my friend and I and he began to bully me around and call me names and push me around at school, and it was brought to the attention of all my friends that this was happening to me, including my ex, and in the end of it, they started dating... this really hurts me and I dont know what to do! do i try my best to ignore it and get over it, or do i talk to them again and make them choose between them or me? I am so lost and I dont know what to do, and I dont know what I have done to deserve this! I never even meant to do anything against them... Has anyone ever beeen in this situation and/ or know what to do? please help me and i will try and help you if you need it. Thank you all
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02-27-2012 11:46 PM #1Registered User
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Bestfriend stole my ex... bro code crisis
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02-28-2012 12:27 AM #2
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02-28-2012 08:27 AM #3
that sucks mate, you friend is not really a friend he is bastard.your ex isnt better either.
what you should do is affected by what outcome you want out of this whole thing. You should have a verbal fight with you best friend and see what it gets resolved from that. Stand your ground tell him he cant do such things if he wants to be friends with you.
or if you dont want confrontation, you can just ignore them and cross them out of your life. They dont seem to be worth of bother anyway.
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02-28-2012 03:54 PM #4
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02-28-2012 04:02 PM #5
For the ex, she's your ex. Don't even think about her.
As for your friend, put it this way. He didn't make any "significant move" on her before you broke up. As I'm sure he was interested he atleast had the dignity to not go behind your back with her.
Not really sure, but do you still have any significant feelings for the girl? If not then best advice would be to just not let it get in the way. If you've been friends with the guy for a long time ( likely since it's best friend) then just talk to him about it.
If you do still have feelings for her, I'd try and not hang out with either of them. Talking to a guy who's going out with the girl you're interested in doesn't lead to anything good.
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02-28-2012 05:40 PM #6Registered User
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well id either put it behind you or confront him about it, not them and make them pick but just him and let him know how much of a douche he is. That is a major bro code infraction and its obvious they chose each other over you, so telling your feelings will do nothing but get you more humiliated by the situation. Look on the bright side, if she would jump on his dik so quickly after you two broke up, she will probably do the same to him as soon as they have a fight.
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02-28-2012 09:32 PM #7Banned User
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He broke the brocode. I propose you breake his face!
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02-28-2012 09:33 PM #8Banned User
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Break*
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02-28-2012 09:35 PM #9Banned User
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Omg brake*
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02-28-2012 09:45 PM #10
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02-28-2012 10:58 PM #11NEW RATE ME
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02-29-2012 06:15 AM #12Banned User
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02-29-2012 08:49 AM #13
wow thats happend to me but its " girl code" and she totally dated my ex then fucked him !!!!!!!
and HE is a cheater anyways so iidk why she wanted to date him anyways
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02-29-2012 09:01 PM #14Banned User
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^ cool story bro.
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02-29-2012 09:34 PM #17NEW RATE ME
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03-02-2012 02:44 PM #18Registered User
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Quit being a whiny little bitch, that's my advice. WAH MY BFF IS BOINKING MY EX. The bro code also states you shouldn't be such a pussy, so you're in clear violation of it. If you want to adhere to the code, punch him in the throat and then let it go.
I've been on both sides. I dated my best pal's "ex" (they dated for like a day, not my fault he never got over her. Still brings it up 7 years later), and a friend of mine dated my ex. Funny enough, it was the same girl! It's nothing to be a pathetic snivelling douche over. Women don't respect that.
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03-02-2012 03:41 PM #19
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03-03-2012 10:30 AM #20Registered User
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Bro code, Girl code, chicks before dicks, bros before hoes, it all means the same thing. Friends come first. Ur friend didnt put you first, so u shudnt have to put him first anymore. U can treat him how he treated u, shitty, or stick to the bro code and let it go and support him like a good friend would.
(i know u r but wat am i)

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