Hi, i have had a girlfriend for a couple monthes now and i think it is time for us to move a little further in our relationship. So far she has been giving me hj's n i think its time for me to finger her. But when we got intemite once i asked her if she wanted me to do it and she said no it is ok. So i respect her decision to not want to get fingerd but she doesn't know how great it would feel considering it is her first time with all of this. So i wanted to get her wet and give her some pleasure, but how could i do this outside of the panties? And i am seeing her soon i would like to try anything new next time i see her. So any suggestions on how i can give her some pleasure?, anything will help, thanks.

Lol.... If you don't know by now you NEVER will.

you could pee on her...but thats obvious

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oooh thanks a lot, i bet you were the same way my age, any1 else have a more helpful answer?

can somebody please give me a real answer?

If she says no, and she means no, you should respect her decision. End of, really.

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but the thing is im not going to finger her im respecting her descion, i just want to show her how it would feel (outside the panties) and maybe change her mind and if i don't, im fine with it.

i even knew how to make a girl horny without advice. its pretty easy to figure it out.

it doesnt really work unless you play with her clit!!!! just wait till shes ready!

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you can get a girl wet without using her clit.. you can also make her know what it feels like without her getting naked. i've done it plenty of times with my current girlfriend, i got her to the point where she wanted to fuck me, but we said we're gonna take it slow.

^^thing is though he said he wanted to give her pleasure now in the majority of girls that even in sex comes from the clitoris!!!!! any way she doesnt want him to do anything like that or she probably wouldve let him finger her so just let her tell you when shes ready

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Maybe alot of making out and feeling/rubbing each other??
I don't know I can't really remember but I think that used to get me pretty excited when i wasnt ready for sex and such.

She will be ready, I never thought that I would be, but now I love it.

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While you guys are making out just rub her. Like you dont have to get inside her pants or panties.. do you get what i mean? cause i dont know if i'm being to vauge.

run into her sideways

umm really? Just by a really intense makeout can make her wet. And it really doesn't feel all that great getting fingered for the first time [if you've done it a couple times yes] but don't count on her liking it soo much.

tongue kissing drives it wild try that!

if she doesnt want you to, don't

if shes turned on...enough.... it will happen...

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Im going to be totally honest. Girls are attracted to attentive listeners. Talk to her. Make her feel special. Make her feel like shes the only thing that matters to you. (which in essence if you really like the girl she should be) Take her out,. Hold her. Talk about her day. Show her you care. Then and only then do you go into any of the physical advice given here. You cant rush into this kind of thing. Once you start, pay attention to her movements and body language to tell what she likes. (It should be obvious) If you do it right the first time it should be easy to initiate again.

There are some FAQ's written by My_Chemical_Emotion on here that could help you out.

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note that damn relationships arent basically meant for sexual pleasure... its meant ot make eachother feel special.

at least you arent one of those fucking abusive people that are like omg thats right you slut come fuck me... lmao