Let's say you have someone extraordinarily dear to you, but you two had a falling out. You seem to be constantly falling further away from this person and you can't really discern any definite path to reconciliation. The other person cares, but you care much, much more. So as you want to restore the bond (not necessarily dating, it's not exactly like that), this person is seemingly content with the current situation which you are convinced is deteriorating.

What do you do?


When do you give up on someone and just leave forever?

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Not just in commerce but in the world of ideas, too, our age is putting on a veritable clearance sale. Everything can be had so dirt cheap that one begins to wonder whether in the end anyone will want to make a bid.

-Kierkegaard in Fear and Trembling

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I don't like letting people who I care about go.

So unless they try to kill me or something I'll never give up.

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Unless there is some miraculous opporunity for a moment of sheer epiphany, I don't see it ending well at all.

The person who wants more will, sooner or later, have to realize that this is not within the foreseeable future and he/she would be better off trying to move on.

Just my $0.02.

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"It'd be funny if it weren't so pathetic. Oh, what the heck, I'll laugh anyway. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!"

i was hoping this thread would be about p/orn but it's about relationships and feelings and shit.



pansy.

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try not to dream a dream tonight.

Now.

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Me, too. It's kinda my problem.

I'm just realizing that this very likely will not end well, and I don't want to keep watching it get worse.



For the record, she's literally the only person I love, and I love her beyond explanation.

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Not just in commerce but in the world of ideas, too, our age is putting on a veritable clearance sale. Everything can be had so dirt cheap that one begins to wonder whether in the end anyone will want to make a bid.

-Kierkegaard in Fear and Trembling

but you gotta let it go and flow by itself. otherwise that person will probably feel like youre pulling them in, and theyll jerk away. just hope for the best.

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try not to dream a dream tonight.

stick it in her butt

seriously though, the other person has to want to and put forth the effort into making the relationship/friendship/whatever work/satisfy your needs

if that person is content with things going to shit then there's not much more you can do aside from voicing your concern and making it clear what you want, if they dont want to comply then its safe to say whatever bond you once had isn't/will not ever be the same

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A witty saying proves nothing.

You could at least give me recognition for cleverly appealing to your sexual feelings.

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Not just in commerce but in the world of ideas, too, our age is putting on a veritable clearance sale. Everything can be had so dirt cheap that one begins to wonder whether in the end anyone will want to make a bid.

-Kierkegaard in Fear and Trembling

STOP CARING

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I'm in this situation with a lot of my friends, and most of them I'm only hanging onto because I have little options, I don't really want them around.
A friendship, or any relationship for that matter only works if both parties want it to, so if this person doesn't care enough to restore the relationship I see no point in wasting your effort.

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When what you think, say & do are in sync,
happiness will follow.

Wheres the pron, btw

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qfhorsepron

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A witty saying proves nothing.

That's seriously a rough thing to go through, given the circumstances. I empathize with you fully.

However, (and I know this is easier said than experienced) shit just happens. Loving relationships go down the shitter, babies die in their cribs and murderers escape without repercussion. Not every thing that happens on this planet (especially between humans) makes sense or has even the faintest solution. What you have to do is realize when a battle becomes a losing one and when it is better to let go.

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"It'd be funny if it weren't so pathetic. Oh, what the heck, I'll laugh anyway. HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!"

Thanks.

Sometime soon, I'm going to decide. It's between a)leaving b)staying as it is and c) continuing trying to improve. I think it could improve, but it's so far off and I feel like it may be unlikely to fully return. But, I will choose soon.

Believe it or not, that actually helped a lot. Just shedding pretenses and emotions and shit and just acting like everything's cool has done more for me than anything else.

I dunno if you're cereal, but that would actually be my advice in this situation. Get on the other person's level and care less.Waiting on Gossip's n00ds.

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Not just in commerce but in the world of ideas, too, our age is putting on a veritable clearance sale. Everything can be had so dirt cheap that one begins to wonder whether in the end anyone will want to make a bid.

-Kierkegaard in Fear and Trembling

These seem the keys to the situation. You want something that s/he doesn't, whatever that may be. It's not something you can force - you can rarely change what people want. If you try too hard, you'll make a bigger mess than you already have.

Respect his/her decisions with as much cheerfulness as you can muster, and if s/he changes his/her mind about your relationship down the track then you're more likely to be respected for the way you acted now.

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Not in the mood for that tonight.

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having been repeatedly shit on by the opposite sex i empathize my good sir, all i can really say is i know where you're coming from, and it sucks.

i hope things work out for the best

i was with a girl for about 2 yearsish, and then all of a sudden i got a i dont want to talk to leave me alone out of the blue and she disappeared off the face of the earth, that really fucked me up for a good 2-3 months having someone that close to you who claimed to love you to just on a whim not give a shit and leave.

it sucked BALLS and i stopped dating for almost 3 years

but the upside of my story is im with my current girlfriend and im happier than i ever was with the girl before and she has the same feelings

the universe has a funny way of evening itself out

ill stop my rambling now

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A witty saying proves nothing.

Holy shit. Same shit happened to me. The only difference is the girl claimed to be pregnant and just ran out of my life.

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