Its pays to just listen...

If that doesn't work, open a vein or two, sympathy makes friends

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backs hands him thens says you donts wannas be his friend anyways and say "i was bout to delete you soon any way"

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Yes, because you're clearly going to be in a sound and rational state of mind in such an event.
This grieving fellow isn't acting out of pure spite, I don't think - even if he is, then I don't know of any way of justifying this other than the death of loved one, or another stressful event.

My father died about 11 months ago. Know how accomodating i'd be if someone said something about his weight leading to the heart attack? The lack of consideration on the other side is tedious, to say the least. Perhaps this won't justify his continued obstinateness.

To the bolded: I'm not sure how that necessarily should elicit her anger. Perhaps regret that a friendship may have been broken due to his inability to properly grive - not that he should be begrudged for that, though. It's a pity, is all, I think.

I don't really like what you are inferring here - everyone grieves at least once in their lifetime but in no way should this inflict on what they have been taught growing up as children and into civilized young adults.
I was taught discipline, respect and dignity and I will NOT be one to destroy a friendship over a simple mistake during the process - that is not who I am and this is not what I condone.

Heart attacks are commonly caused by obesity and over weight and it is a common fact to affiliate the fathers weight to the cause of his death - this may not be a suitable issue to discuss during a grieving process but it certainly wasn't a justification to destroy a friendship over...
If my best friends destroyed our friendship over a cheeky statement during a grieving process I would certainly think twice about forgiveness because friendship involves forgiveness and understanding.

Quite frankly forgiveness and understanding was not applied in this instance.

It doesn't justify it, but expecting people to act rationally when they're grieving is asking a bit too much.

Well he did say i could contact him by Saturday even though that'd be after teh funeral but i guess that's just how it's gunna be....it's a bit much and u know it...so stop acting up that way..surely it must be something else....and i already said a billion times that i never meant it in that way at all....every1 knew he was a heavy smoker...

You deserved to be blocked and deleted.
Your friend will probably get over it in time, but when your BEST FRIEND tells you that his father just died, you don't say some stupid shit like, "Oh, it was probably from his smoking", you console him, and let him know you're there for him.

Dumb bitch.

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That's not teh first thing i said first thing i said was...i can't believe it and i feel so bad....cuz another friend of his father died like 3 weeks ago and i never said that to offend him i only said it to find out how he died...smart ass....

i wish there was something i could do now to change things any suggestions that anybody here thinks would work for sure?

it's over now i solved it

We forgive you

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